tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-47139768155220240352024-02-20T13:27:43.238-08:00When I Grow Up...One stay-at-home mom's musings on figuring out what to do with her life as her children grow up. Thoughts about motherhood, continuing education, occupations and life in general.Beverlyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00427906581745502903noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4713976815522024035.post-15012279034462840032012-04-17T08:52:00.000-07:002012-04-17T08:52:44.624-07:00Gray-ting<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">There's been a lot of "gray" talk in the media lately. Most of it centers around the racy book series most of the women I know have either read or are going to read (meh), but I've also been seeing a lot of stuff about the beauty of allowing your hair to go "naturally" gray.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">As a woman who has fought my gray hair every step of the way, I find myself very bothered that I am now being told to embrace my grayness. That I should "empower" myself to reveal the authentic me. Enjoy the beauty of the silver.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Thank you, but I would rather file my teeth down to nubs and chew a roll of aluminum foil.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Please don't get me wrong - I know that gray hair is beautiful on some women. Heloise has always been gorgeous. I respect that certain individuals feel comfortable with gray hair, and that's awesome for them. And I certainly take no issue with the random strays of gray that some ladies sport because seriously, it just makes them look cool. You know who you are.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">But please do not try and tell me that a full head of gray hair makes <i>any</i> woman look younger. Have you been watching "The Biggest Loser" this season? Did you <i>see</i> gray-haired Christine walk into the room with her husband Santa and think - gosh, she looks like she's younger than him but that gray hair... and then choke when you realized she was only 42??? I'm not sure there was ever a contestant on that show who needed make-over week more. Praise God she let the hairdresser color her hair.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">All joking aside, just 'twixt us kids, if I didn't have a close personal relationship with my wonderful hair stylist (Betsy I love you), I would be looking like Christine in no time at all. I, too, would be sporting a completely gray head of hair. And let's be very clear. I DO NOT enjoy my gray hair. It's wiry. It's unmanageable. It makes me <i>feel </i>older than I am. Now, I have no problem with being 44, but gosh golly, I do not care to have my hair make me <i>look</i> older than I am. (That job belongs to my wrinkles!) This has nothing to do with not loving myself but with loving myself enough to continue to do something that makes me happy. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">So here's the thing - I will put up with wearing "cheaters" to read every menu and freaking medicine label; I will pop pills to help control my stomach acid; and I will learn to live with the aches and pains that I am realizing come with inching up the age meter. But I will not, at this time in my life, under any circumstances, embrace the gray hair. It is not happening. How's that for authentic?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">And to you, Today show, Yahoo, Oprah, et al, I say Bah Humbug!! Your youngster fashionista style editors seem to enjoy making us all feel crappy about everything from skirt lengths to high heels, but you will not pull this one over on me!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I am old enough to know better!!</span>Beverlyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00427906581745502903noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4713976815522024035.post-28417171062888482982012-03-21T21:00:00.000-07:002012-03-21T21:00:18.999-07:00Springing ForwardI love Spring.<div>Except for the whole time-change thing. That sucks. </div><div><br />
</div><div>But in honor of the springing of Spring, I'd like to show you a few of the things my camera has enjoyed seeing over the last few weeks. I realize yesterday was the official first day of Spring, but here in FLA it has been pretty toasty for a while. I expect it's going to be a long, hot summer...</div><div><br />
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Kitty enjoying the sunshine...<br />
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</div>Beverlyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00427906581745502903noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4713976815522024035.post-69346963252310624082012-02-22T08:46:00.000-08:002012-02-22T08:46:02.445-08:00Why ya gotta be so mean?I generally try to maintain a positive outlook on life. I am definitely a "glass half-full" kind of girl. When I relate the stories of my life to other people, it's generally with for others' amusement. I believe in laughing about what ails you because if you can't laugh about life's little problems, you run the risk of becoming bitter. Crabby. Angry. <b><i>Mean</i></b>.<br />
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It's a painful word, <b><span style="color: red;"><i>mean.</i></span></b> When I hear it, I generally think of several things:<br />
Mike Tyson.<br />
School yard bullies.<br />
People who catch butterflies.<br />
My ancient fifth-grade teacher who used to pull our hair if we weren't listening.<br />
In short, anyone who tortures another living being for pleasure.<br />
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My husband and I have had a running joke about me being the "mean mom." The mom who wouldn't let her kids ride their bikes without a helmet. The mom who makes them put away their own clothes. The mom who won't allow them to swim without adult supervision. Yep, that's me, definitely the mean mom.<br />
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And yet it still came as something of a gut-check recently to find out that I am, really and truly, the mean mom... in the eyes of a... teacher?<br />
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We were attending an information session at one of the kids' schools when I found myself feeling slightly under attack by one of the teachers. This particular instructor felt very strongly about the merits of a certain class. When I questioned what would happen if certain requirements were not met by my child, the teacher was clearly taken aback. Aghast, even, that I would dare to question my brilliant daughter's brilliant-ness. Now, let's be clear. She's a very intelligent kid. She's mine, after all. But as I like to believe that one's education should be well-rounded, I wanted to weigh how she would handle the extra demands of the particular class versus keeping decent grades in other classes in which she's not as well-versed.<br />
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The next day my sweet, smart, daughter came home and with a laugh, related that her teacher had said - in front of the class - that her mom was really mean.<br />
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<b><span style="color: red;"><i>Mean</i></span></b>. Me. Zoinks.<br />
The first thing I did was apologize to my daughter and make sure she understood that I have complete faith in her. I have no qualms about her taking the class but I wanted to make sure she could keep up with her work and still maintain some kind of life outside of school. She thought it very amusing. Since then I've debated - do I call the teacher and apologize for questioning her authority? Did I really and truly come across that badly? Did Taylor Swift write a song about me?<br />
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This happened several weeks ago and clearly it's still bothering me. I guess the most important person in this whole issue - my daughter - seems to be doing well despite my mean-ness. I did, in fact, agree to let her take the course in question and I expect she'll do fabulously.<br />
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Meanwhile, her current teacher just assigned another hundred notecards on top of all their other homework. No weekend fun for you kiddo!<br />
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Hey Teach? Why ya gotta be so mean?Beverlyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00427906581745502903noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4713976815522024035.post-78759483136787313862011-12-30T19:12:00.000-08:002011-12-30T19:12:23.466-08:00The 12 Days of ChristmasAll four kids are home from school for "Winter Break."<div><br />
</div><div>I like to think of it as "The 12 Days of Christmas" since they are getting exactly 12 school days off. Of course, only 2 of them were actually before Christmas proper, but since "Christmas" in our household continues until Epiphany (this year Jan. 8th), I think it's pretty appropriate. I'm trying not to add three weekend days to my count because then I would realize I actually have 18 days of trying to entertain and keep four kids busy.</div><div><br />
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</div><div>'Cause really, it is a gift to have them home all this time... really.</div><div><br />
</div><div>The past week has been spent preparing for Christmas and then enjoying their gifts. This is the easy part. Mostly. Today has been a whiny day as some of the luster is wearing off Kylie's Barbie Town House (With Toilet that Makes a Flushing Sound!) and nobody is at all interested in helping to clean up the detritus from Christmas morning. It is kind-of sad when you look at all the now-empty boxes and ribbon remnants littering the ground, but enough is enough and the mess has to go.</div><div><br />
</div><div>What you will not find us doing is actually <i>taking down</i> our decorations. It is, after all, still Christmas. I find it sad when friends say they've already boxed up their decorations and lights the day after Christmas. My interior adornments will stay until Epiphany. We did find it necessary to remove several lighted penguins from the front yard as they would not, could not, stay upright. I was tired of repositioning them every single day, only to come outside and find them belly-down on the grass like a bunch of drunk monkeys. The inflatable penguins, however, will stay at least until the weekend. </div><div><br />
</div><div>The next order of business is deciding what to do for New Year's Eve. We used to be big party-givers until we started having kids. Even then we frequently had several friends over for late-night celebrations. This all ended around the year 2000, when our close friends were out of town and we were waiting for whatever craziness might ensue with the advent of Y2K (remember that phrase??) Obvious, nothing happened, and we came to label that night The Lamest New Year's Ever. </div><div><br />
</div><div>Nearly 12 year's later, we are still celebrating The Lamest New Year's Ever, only now our four children all stay up to take part and we have developed some fun new traditions. The non-stop drinkfest of our younger days has been replaced with a fondue party. We attempt to play board games until somebody gets mad and quits (usually Kylie, but occasionally Keaton). and then we all fight to stay awake until The Ball drops. </div><div><br />
</div><div>It's... fun. It is. I don't miss the drinkfests (okay, maybe a little), but we enjoy spending that time together as a family. </div><div><br />
</div><div>And after that, it's only one more week till school starts up for the kids! I still haven't registered for anymore classes for me... maybe this will be my year? </div><div><br />
</div><div>Last Minute Update... We are moving The Lamest New Year's Ever to St. Augustine this year! It might not be so lame after all!</div>Beverlyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00427906581745502903noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4713976815522024035.post-41599716894802770052011-11-30T07:12:00.000-08:002011-11-30T07:12:54.745-08:00A Guest Blog<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; line-height: 12px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: red; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">A note from Bev...</span></span><br />
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<div style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin: 0in;"><span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-color: white; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; font-family: Arial, sans-serif;"><i>A dear friend of mine recently posted on Facebook a very thoughtful and well-written essay about her son and his football career. Laura is a busy mother of 5 children and I have always admired her ability to "do it all" so well! Her essay made me think about my word choices and assumptions I make about my own kids. Our lives change dramatically as our children get older; we find ourselves so caught up in the drama of parenting a teenager that sometimes we forget to just be proud.<o:p></o:p></i></span></div><div style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin: 0in;"><br />
</div><div style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin: 0in;"><span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-color: white; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; font-family: Arial, sans-serif;"><i>I, personally, get tired of hearing how terrible “kids are today.” Most of the teens I meet are pretty darn good kids doing their best in a weird world. I think they’re awesome. And yes, I think Jonathan – and his mom – are pretty awesome too. </i></span><o:p></o:p></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; margin-left: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in;"><br />
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</div><div style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin: 0in;"><span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-color: white; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; font-family: Arial, sans-serif;">When our kids are young, it’s very easy to show them off and brag. As they get older, it becomes more difficult. It’s not that there are necessarily less things we are proud of, it’s we feel a little uncomfortable with talking about them to others. We don't want to come across as the boasting parent and God forbid we "one up" any of our friends kids.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin: 0in;"><br />
</div><div style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin: 0in;"><span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-color: white; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; font-family: Arial, sans-serif;">Growing up I never heard my mom boast about any of us. It just wasn't her. She did, however, tell me once that she really didn't want to hear about other people's kids so why should she bore them with her kid’s little anecdotes? Fair enough, I suppose but at the same time why deny yourself that one little moment when you really have something special to share. That's just what I am going to do. <o:p></o:p></span></div><div style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin: 0in;"><br />
</div><div style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin: 0in;"><span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-color: white; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; font-family: Arial, sans-serif;">For the last 10 weeks I have sat in the stands watching my son Jonathan's team get beat every Friday night and for a mother sitting there week after week let me tell you it was rough. Five out of the 10 games they lost by a touchdown or less. Boys (including Jon) were playing both offense and defense some games because there wasn't enough players.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin: 0in;"><br />
</div><div style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin: 0in;"><span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-color: white; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; font-family: Arial, sans-serif;">There were a few games I actually had to leave early because I just couldn't take it. One or two games I wanted to cry. Now I know that may seem silly and a bit pathetic to some. I get that, but when you have a son like mine who is quiet, never really expresses himself, it’s hard because you really don't know how much he hurts or how disappointed he really is. But, what he did show me these last 2 1/2 months is a kid with a lot of character, self-confidence and loyalty.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin: 0in;"><br />
</div><div style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin: 0in;"><span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-color: white; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; font-family: Arial, sans-serif;">The past few years Jon has been banged up with bruised ribs, an injured hip that required therapy, and a concussion. But he never once complained, never once was late for practice and never missed a practice or game, even when he was hurt and couldn't play. What I saw was a kid that not only got hurt on the field but off the field as well (especially this past season) by his school mates and even some friends. I must admit even his dad and I made comments about the coach. His response to me was "mom you don't know him. He's good to us, takes care of the players and mom, he's a good Christian man." <o:p></o:p></span></div><div style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin: 0in;"><br />
</div><div style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin: 0in;"><span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-color: white; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; font-family: Arial, sans-serif;">Well, talk about putting me in my place. I've never said another word about his coaches again. If Jonathan gained nothing else from this whole experience, what he did gain was the privilege of being coached by someone he respected. I told Joe a few weeks back I wasn't going to miss this. I lied. I will miss very much seeing my kid run across the field, miss very much the talks about the next week’s game and seeing him all dressed up in his good clothes on game day. Even the smelly, muddy, practice clothes will be missed. I will miss it all because it was a big part of Jon's last 6 years and a big part of who my son is.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin: 0in;"><br />
</div><div style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin: 0in;"><span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-color: white; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; font-family: Arial, sans-serif;"> The young Man he has become.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div style="margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin: 0in;"><br />
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</div>Beverlyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00427906581745502903noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4713976815522024035.post-56432635076159292032011-11-13T15:52:00.000-08:002011-11-13T15:52:28.854-08:00Ho Ho Ho!!I always have a little bit of a chuckle at this time of year at how many people get so incredibly worked up about the early launch of the Christmas season.<br />
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"Oh no, the Christmas display is up at Wal-Mart!" they cry. "What about Thanksgiving?" they question. "I don't want to hear any Christmas carols yet!" they post on Facebook.<br />
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</tbody></table>The Christmas season is a time of wonder, love and renewal. The birth of our Savior is the highlight to my year. It's also a time of special remembrance to me as I mark another year since the death of my wonderful daddy. I realized many years ago that I could choose to be sad or I could choose to honor his memory by squeezing every ounce of joy out of this blessed time.<br />
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You can bet I choose the latter.<br />
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The first time I see Christmas lights is always one of my favorite days of the year. I, frankly, don't see that anything gets taken away from Thanksgiving just because some stores are playing Christmas music already. Instead, what I see is an enlarged window of opportunity to enjoy a little of the warm fuzzies as we remember Christmases past. It does not lessen my thankfulness or thoughtfulness over the Thanksgiving holiday one bit.<br />
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I think of this small bit of Christmas celebrating before Thanksgiving as a bonus time. I can stop and enjoy the music without that slightly panicky-stomach-upset that I should be shopping, wrapping presents or stamping Christmas cards. Psychologically I know it would make my life so much easier to do it now rather than closer to Christmas, but the deadline-loving girl in me can't seem to get with that program. Since I won't organize and plan early for Christmas, I should revel in it now!!<br />
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Plus, since I think people in general tend to be nicer at Christmas-time, it certainly can't hurt to start a little earlier and hope that the niceties start earlier too. Sure, it would be great if everyone were nicer ALL year long, but I'll take what I can get.<br />
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So the next time you hear a Christmas song on the radio or see an early-bird light display, stop for a minute and just try to enjoy it.... please? You might find it puts a smile on your face!<br />
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Hugs & God Bless,<br />
BeverlyBeverlyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00427906581745502903noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4713976815522024035.post-468429279319095372011-11-02T07:03:00.000-07:002011-11-02T07:03:38.634-07:00What are your keys?<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: red; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><b>The Apology</b></span><br />
So it has definitely been a long month since I've posted! I've thought of many, many topics to write about over the last few weeks but have been strapped for time to do them justice.<br />
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I thought maybe I could write at night, after the kids were asleep. When I was younger (hate that phrase), I painted entire rooms at 3 a.m. But these days I find sleep is more of a commodity than ever before, and that trying to stay up late to get something done (like this blog), usually results in something not so great. It's hell to get old!<br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: #cccccc; color: red; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><b>Moving On</b></span><br />
I watched a segment on The Today Show recently about women returning to work after being home with kids for 5-10-15 years. Now, I'm not entirely certain I'm ready to return to the workforce at this time but it sounded like an interesting segment and I'm glad I watched it. They interviewed two "experts" about some of the issues we face and how to prepare for the job transition. The experts were Sarah Brokaw, author of the book "Fortytude" and Pamela Mitchell, author of the book "The 10 Laws of Career Reinvention."<br />
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This got me to thinking about what my own three key strengths might be... and that this is a great exercise for anyone, particularly those who are going through some sort of transition. When you've been working in the same job or doing the same thing for many years you can sometimes lose sight of what <i>you</i> are best at doing, and it's important to keep that in the forefront of your psyche. In my particular case my job is being a mother, so I'm going to take some time over the next few days and figure out what my three key strengths are as a mother. I'd love for you to think about this subject and figure out your own key strengths and, if you're comfortable, sharing them! I promise I'm not trying to go all Stuart Smalley on you, I just think it's important not to allow our own sense of humility to sabotage our efforts to grow.<br />
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I haven't had time, yet (hah!) to read <a href="http://myfortytude.com/">Sarah Brokaw</a>'s "Fortytude" but it's definitely on my list! If anyone has read it, please let me know what you thought of it. I'll be posting a little review on it sometime soon!<br />
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During my newspaper reporter days many many moons ago, we were frequently responsible for taking our own photos to accompany our stories. This was back before the advent of digital photography and even before color photos were de rigueur in most newspapers. We would shoot whole rolls of film of people and events and then, upon developing, discover that we had maybe one or two pictures that would actually help tell the story and print well. I never considered myself to be a "good" photographer; perhaps, "adequate for the task at hand" is more appropriate. Occasionally I would luck upon a Really! Amazing! Photo! and this would excite me enough to believe I was a good photographer... until the next roll of film was developed and found to contain the usual not-so-great.<br />
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My husband actually studied photography and has an awesome, hidden portfolio of beautiful work. He would occasionally offer tidbits of knowledge to attempt to help me improve but it was usually easier to simply drag him along with me and point out the things I needed him to photograph. This early habit has evolved over the years of photographing our kids and their lives along the way. This also leads to lots of irritation on my part when I can envision a certain shot but can't communicate to him exactly what I want. "Honey, get a shot of Kennedy skating. No, not there, over there... no, I want her mid-spin, not mid-jump... no, I want to see her skates, not just a blur..." and on and on and on.<br />
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So for the past six weeks I've made my way to <a href="http://www.crealde.org/">Crealde Art Studio</a> in Winter Park to learn how to use the expensive digital camera we bought two years ago and to remind myself of the joy in <i>doing it myself</i>. And to experiment with photography for art's sake.<br />
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The first thing I've learned is that I still excel in finding ways to be late to class. Fortunately, this is the kind of arena where you don't get marked off for being tardy. I'll have to rein that in when I go back to school "for reals."<br />
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On the more exciting side, I think I'm discovering a tiny little creative niche for myself through photography. Ansel Adams I am not<i>.</i> But I've included a few of my favorite photos for you to see how I'm spending my time. Maybe one of them will spark a creative moment for you!<br />
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Hugs & God Bless,<br />
BeverlyBeverlyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00427906581745502903noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4713976815522024035.post-24522274573791553882011-09-22T08:36:00.000-07:002011-09-22T08:36:30.116-07:00Just call me DobbyOnce again, it has taken me 10 days to write the next post. Sorry friends, the days are getting away from me! I'm trying to keep this to a weekly thing, hoping that's enough to keep people interested but not too much to be annoying.<br />
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So, this was one of those mornings that every parent in the universe (except all the perfect parents of course!) experiences with their children. Nobody wanted to get out of bed, including me. Had to battle with Little Missy over getting dressed. Argued with son over actually eating the lunch I've packed for him versus leaving it to rot so he can buy lunch everyday. Discussed the fact that while Toaster Strudel is yummy, if you're still hungry after eating one, that is a pretty good sign it's not a good breakfast and that we should add a banana or apple to that breakfast plate (why do I even buy the dang things, I wonder!)<br />
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This led to two things:<br />
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1. A strong twinge of nostalgia for the days when we had just small children at home, who didn't need to be to preschool till 9. I truly miss the days of snuggling on the couch with them as they could take the time to wake up slowly while watching Little Bear and eating whatever breakfast I'd made that morning. They'd get dressed in the family room, and I might grumble a bit about the left-behind jammies, but all in all it was a pleasant way to start the day.<br />
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2. The realization that it's that time of year when the "Mom is not the House Elf" speech has to be dusted off and put into play.<br />
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Here's what happens every school year: School starts. I'm alternately sad (because inevitably we didn't do everything we wanted to do over the summer and I hate homework more than the kids) and giddy (because, well, four kids, do the math). In order to combat the new-school-year-blues and try to make the morning transition as painless as possible, we start out with mom showing the love and making it all good... lunches are made, complete with mushy note in the lunchbox; everyone gets the breakfast of their choice; I make sure snacks and water bottles are parked in the back packs; in short, I don my Dobby cloak and if a sock of gratitude should fall my way, I'm a happy camper.<br />
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My goal here is to help them get started on a great year, but eventually be able to do all these things on their own with just a mild amount of supervision. Model the behavior, point out what they need to be doing, eventually nudge them along to doing it themselves. Clearly, all my children are old enough to pour themselves a bowl of cereal-and-moo for breakfast, just as they are all old enough to make their own lunches (with varying degrees of healthiness) and pack their own backpacks. The problem is recognizing the point when the kids start to <i>expect</i> mom to do all these things rather than appreciating the fact that mom is trying to help them out. Thus, the<i> nudging</i> is now going to become the outright <i>pushing</i>. I still want to be able to do all these things for them, but I know that for them to become confident, self-sufficient children, teens and eventually adults, they have to learn to juggle the morning madness with just a little bit of back-up from mom & dad.<br />
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My feeling is this: I am the MOM, and a stay-at-home mom at that. My job (and currently ONLY job) is take care of the troops. Sometimes this means showing them how to do something, allowing them to <b>do</b> and, if necessary, to <b>fail</b>, and providing some meaningful support when necessary. <i>This does not mean doing everything for them and/or picking up all the pieces when they don't do something right</i>. However, kids should be able to make mistakes with some subconscious expectation that someone has their backs. I'm pretty sure that's written somewhere in my job description (somewhere before lighting the fires and after mopping the floors). So, I'll keep reminding and prodding, and hoping that eventually I will get nostalgic twinges for the days when the kids <i>let</i> me make their lunches.<br />
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Now that I think about it, maybe House Elf IS a good title. After all, "Dobby did it for the best."<br />
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Hugs & God Bless,<br />
Beverly<br />
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P.S. Have had so many wonderful people asking about Kylie and how she is recovering after her concussion. So far, so good. Initial round of blood tests have come back negative for any sort of blood disorders that might have been responsible for the clotted vein, so that's a good thing. Visiting the neurologist on Monday and praying that he clears her for "active duty." The lack of physical play is starting to wear on us all! Thank you all for your kind thoughts and prayers! They make a difference!Beverlyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00427906581745502903noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4713976815522024035.post-47955308153619238222011-09-12T20:23:00.000-07:002011-09-12T20:23:29.694-07:00Life goes on!<i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: x-small;">Warning: Long Post</span></i><br />
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</div><div>Last Tuesday morning I was sitting on my couch, drinking my Coke Zero, watching Regis and Kelly while I typed up my blog entry. It was an entry about our crazy Labor Day weekend, how busy we'd been, how we packed in so much stuff, blah blah blah. I'd gone walking earlier in the morning and was feeling very smug about the fact that I had my exercise out of the way, but was trying to decide if I should finish my blog entry or go shower. Blogging won (although I never did publish the entry!)<br />
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</div><div>A few minutes later my phone rang and I recognized the number as my kids' school. Kylie had a tummy ache, which I figured was related to one of two things: either the stomach virus Blaine had endured Sunday night; or the bump on the head Kylie took Sunday afternoon when she fell on our hateful stone fireplace. I jumped into the shower for a quick scrub and hauled it to the school within 20 minutes of the call. While en route I called the pediatrician's office, who insisted we go straight to the hospital. I was certain she was fine and they were over-reacting (don't judge unless you have four kids!)<br />
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Forty-five minutes later we arrived at the world-renowned children's hospital and jumped out to hand the car keys to the valet. This was about when Kylie realized she'd left her very important carsick bag in, well, the car, so it was easier to puke on the ground and my shoes instead of getting the baggie. While everyone stared at us, I remember thinking - this is a hospital - you can't tell me my kid is the first to puke in the parking lot!</div><div><br />
</div><div>So that was how I found myself in the Emergency Department (ER is so passe' these days) with a sick kid, sweaty ponytail hair and puke on my shoes. We were quickly shown to a fast-track room, where the PA (physician's assistant) pronounced immediately that she was absolutely fine, he didn't think she had a concussion, but he would need a CT Scan to confirm it. Right-o. Two hours later he came back in with the ED attending physician in tow and they informed me that my daughter not only had a concussion, but had a small bruise on her brain. Huh. We had gone from a slightly-mocking "She's fine" to "She'll need to stay at least overnight and possibly longer for observation."</div><div><br />
</div><div>What followed was a whirlwind two days of tests, blood draws, tears (Kylie's and mine), text messages, phone calls and attempts at deep, calming breathing. Kylie was attached to all the fancy monitors, and as I tried to explain to her what each thing was for, why she was getting an MRI, what was happening when the nurse was putting in her IV, I kept thinking, "Seriously? This isn't really happening, is it?" And then I would catch a whiff of the puke on my shoes (yes, it took me forever to get it all off) and I would know that yes, it was happening. </div><div><br />
</div><div>As always, God is Good. Eventually the neurologist determined that the "bruise" on her brain was not, in fact, a bruise, but instead a blocked vein around the <i>outside</i> of her brain<i>. </i>Still slightly freaky, but we've been assured that although rare, sometimes this kind of thing does happen due to trauma. The hope is that other veins will eventually form to take the place of the one that is blocked.<i> </i>There are still some concerns about how and why the vein became blocked, but essentially, once she recovers from the concussion, she will be fine.<br />
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It has been almost a week since the hospital visit and we're still working through the symptoms of post-concussion syndrome. Fatigue, nausea and vomiting are the norm, although it still floors me to see my daughter puking her guts out and then five minutes later have her ask for a fruit roll-up.<br />
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Once again I've been shown that we are oh-so-blessed by not only our family (thank you Stacey for coming over to help with only the clothes on your back!) but also the many "friends who are family" here in our adopted hometown. Sunday I was driving home from church and realized I didn't have to make my usual stop at the gas station as I still had a half tank of gas left after a full week. It made me take stock of all the people who had picked up my kids from school, sports activities and other events, and the many other people who had offered to help and of course, said a pray for Kylie.<br />
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I don't really know how we would've handled all of this without them.<br />
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Hugs & God Bless,<br />
Beverly</div></div>Beverlyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00427906581745502903noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4713976815522024035.post-29154310561101188492011-09-04T19:28:00.000-07:002011-09-04T19:29:33.024-07:00What just happened?Hello my dear readers! I'm not sure how it's already Sunday night, more than a week after I last posted. It has been one of those weeks... four kids in three different schools, sports practices, parent nights, rained-out sports practices, music lessons, homework battles, birthday parties, room renovations, the list goes on and on. What? Sounds like your life? Pull up a chair and let's commiserate!<br />
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But this post isn't actually about the doll, I just felt the need to explain :-)<br />
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What I'm trying to say here is that this week I have <i>felt</i> like that doll<i> looks</i>. Half of me has been presented to the world as a reasonably well-coiffed, pulled-together mama. Hiding on the other side of me is a crazy lady with thinning, tangled hair, going in 10 directions at once and thinking to herself "and just how in the hell are you going to fit school and/or a job in all of this??"<br />
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I know I can make it work, I'm just not sure <i>how</i>. But I dropped off a resume at the Hallmark store anyways this week. We'll see if I can score an interview for holiday staff. The last time I worked at a Hallmark store I had an 8-week-old infant at home, one child in preschool, and two kids in elementary school. I loved every minute of it!<br />
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But as I look at the weekly schedule I've created for myself and my family, the obligations I've committed to, and the expectations my family has of me, I wonder what's going to "go" should I actually manage to <i>get</i> a part-time job. Borrowing trouble? Perhaps. So, I pray. I pray that God will lead me to what I need to be doing at this point in my life and that maybe, it will turn out that a simple part-time job is a good place to start.<br />
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And I'll keep trying to tame that hair.<br />
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Hugs & God Bless,<br />
Bev<br />
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Beverlyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00427906581745502903noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4713976815522024035.post-91119473508691521662011-08-27T18:39:00.000-07:002011-08-27T18:39:20.943-07:00SPWHBeen doing the SPWH thing for the last few days.<br />
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</div><div>Single Parent with Husband. That's the phrase a friend coined a few years ago when we were commiserating over our traveling husbands who seemed to be gone every time a toilet clogged, a tire went flat and a kid was barfing over my shoulder. We knew we were blessed to have great husbands who worked so hard to support us and missed us when they were gone... but sometimes that's hard to remember when you're knee deep in puke!<br />
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</div><div>The Hub has been up in the great state of New York (Utica, specifically) for work and was expected to be home tomorrow. While currently he doesn't travel quite as much as he has at other times in our marriage, I really miss him when he's gone! His travel schedule was one of the first things we considered when I quit my last job - and I can laugh now about how hard I thought it was to manage ONE kid on my own! As I always say, it's all about perspective, and my perspective with four school-age kids is a bit different these days. </div><div><br />
</div><div>When Blaine left home on Wednesday we were pretty confident Hurricane Irene had veered away from Florida and we would be <i>just fine</i>. Neither of us really believed she was heading towards New York! Fortunately, he's in the middle of the state, riding out the storm in an oh-so-glamorous Best Western and hoping to get a flight out on Sunday morning. If he doesn't make it out on Sunday this will mark the longest we've been apart since the earliest days of our marriage. (Ever hear the one about the married fraternity boy who lived in a fraternity house? I'll tell ya about it someday.)</div><div><br />
</div><div>Now, I don't know about other spouses of travelers, but when Blaine is gone there is a certain of amount of, shall we say, laxness that tends to come over me. Not relaxation, because I miss him, the kids miss him, and the effort to be The Responsible One all the time is hard. But I do tend to let some things go - the laundry piles up, dinner might come from a blue-and-yellow box (or a delivery guy), and I might let one of the kids sleep in my bed. Aww, who am I kidding, that happens when he's here too! Maybe I just don't feel as guilty about it? I don't know. In any event, when he's gone just a few days at a time it's manageable. </div><div><br />
</div><div>Five days (or more) stinks. </div><div><br />
</div><div>Hugs & God Bless,</div><div>Bev</div><div><br />
</div><div>P.S. I'm praying for all the people who are in Irene's path. May you all stay safe, dry, and together while she does her business. </div><div><br />
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</div></div>Beverlyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00427906581745502903noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4713976815522024035.post-47721583555371000702011-08-25T20:23:00.000-07:002011-08-25T20:23:49.663-07:00No Easy ButtonOne of the first things I realized when I decided to make some life changes was that I'd made some mistakes over the years.<br />
<div><span></span></div><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhTcZexrq5U3mqb7Wjg0wSLjqrXswDNa8foTLBFS01vs_I81f2K06KEcjh5rl63hxai6T5mjQE0vCP65k1d3ErxLR0w35LoIFCqC2_cR6GqUNEduNN7eGDx78F2L85ns1xyyLCjUibv7W8/s1600/canstockphoto7024840.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhTcZexrq5U3mqb7Wjg0wSLjqrXswDNa8foTLBFS01vs_I81f2K06KEcjh5rl63hxai6T5mjQE0vCP65k1d3ErxLR0w35LoIFCqC2_cR6GqUNEduNN7eGDx78F2L85ns1xyyLCjUibv7W8/s200/canstockphoto7024840.jpg" width="189" /></a>Coloring my own hair (oh, the pictures!). Carpeting the living room (owners of little dogs understand why). Tequila shots (always a mistake. Always.) My four kids? Always and forever, never a mistake! I LOVE my life and have enjoyed every minute of momhood (well, maybe not the ones that involved poopy diapers!)</div><div><br />
</div><div>But looking back, I did use my children as an excuse to avoid keeping up with my "outside" education. In fact, I made lots of excuses for not taking the classes that would have kept me up-to-date in my field. I think the biggest issue here was that by the time I quit working, I was so <i>over</i> my chosen field that I had no desire to ever go back to it. I realized that when I was in college, I'd probably made a mistake choosing journalism as a major. I loved to write, but I enjoyed creative writing more than any kind of hard-hitting journalistic endeavors, and I found there wasn't a lot of money to be made writing poetry (amazing, huh?). For me, journalism was the "easy" major - the writing and editing came naturally to me but wasn't what I loved to do (and it wasn't exactly lucrative either!) </div><div><br />
</div><div>I was fortunate that raising children became a career in and of itself. By the time I had my third child I figured this parenting thing was my true calling. When I did go back to work - as a teacher's assistant at my children's preschool - it was in a field that was a natural extension of raising children. Please know - I am not saying that only moms make good preschool teachers. I'm saying that for me, working with little kids was second nature... I understood the art of making playdough. I valued the chaos-to-stillness of resttime. I loved being "home base" when the kiddies played tag on the playground. Mom to "Mrs. Johnson" was an easy, easy transition. Nowadays I realize that while the little guys are fun, I'm not sure if it's something that will lend itself to a lifelong career. Easy? For me, probably more so than picking something else. </div><div><br />
</div><div>But these days, I'm starting to figure out that maybe it's time to stop looking for the "easy button."</div><div><br />
</div><div><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: blue;">Your Feedback</span></b><br />
One of the things I've discovered since starting this whole project is there are many, many people out there looking to be something different when They Grow Up. I don't think this is a phenomenon limited to stay-at-home moms or any other population, but that there are lots of people in my age category and beyond (40+ thank you!) who are realizing that maybe the job they've been doing for the last 10-15-20 years is not paying the bills and/or allowing them to save towards retirement. Some are being forced to enter other career areas because their jobs have been outsourced to other countries. Some are watching their children grow up and thinking that maybe, just maybe, it's time to do what they "always wanted to do" instead of slogging away at a job that pays the financial bills but is taking a mental/emotional toll in return.</div><div><br />
</div><div>Whatever the reason, we're going to explore some of the options out there for continuing education, for changing jobs entirely, and for just adding in some hobbies that maybe make the rest of life a bit more palatable. Along the way I hope you will feel compelled to share your journey and tell us what's making your life a little more interesting or enjoyable, whether it's a class, reading a great book, starting a new job, or just something awesome that your kids or grandkids might say or accomplish. </div>Beverlyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00427906581745502903noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4713976815522024035.post-73580655834716422932011-08-22T08:28:00.000-07:002011-08-22T08:28:45.993-07:00When I Grow Up....After months and months of kicking this around in the privacy of my own brain (which is scary enough), I'm taking the big leap to blogging. Out loud. In public. For anyone to see.<br />
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I'm a little nervous. Be nice, please.<br />
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A little about me... my name is Beverly, and I'm the wife of a great guy and the mother of four incredible kids. I "stopped working" about 12 years ago to stay home and raise our children. I put the phrase "stopped working" in quotes because being a stay-at-home mom is definitely not for the faint of heart. Of course you don't ever <i>stop</i> working when you're a mom -- employed outside the home or not -- but having four little mini-yous as your sole employer adds a whole new dimension is to the term "job security." Although my husband and I did not take this decision to go to a one-income life lightly, I'm not sure either of us ever expected this season of our lives to last as long as it has. Around this time last year I started realizing that maybe it was time to make a change. Our youngest child was in kindergarten and I knew I needed to consider that maybe it was time to go back to work. <i>Outside</i> the home.<br />
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I started my adult career life as a newspaper reporter and ended it as a PR wonk for a senior services agency, but haven't really kept up any kinds of certifications or skills that would help me go back to either of those careers. Not that I really want to spend my days back in the PR field. I'd had enough of that in 1998, I can't imagine it would be more fun now.<br />
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So in an effort to ease my transition back into the world of the worker, we decided I would take Kylie's kindergarten year as a kind-of last hurrah as a stay-at-home mom. I would volunteer. Take classes. Do. Stuff.<br />
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Figure out What I Want to Be When I Grow Up.<br />
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Huh. A year later and I'm still at a loss about that last thing. I think I've done a fair amount of volunteering, although I wouldn't consider myself an overachiever in that way ;) Haven't done a lot in terms of the "take classes" area either. Rather, I've spent hours doing "center time" activities with the kindergarteners in my daughter's class. And going over math problems and doing busy work for my third-grader's teacher. Sometimes, if I'm really lucky, I get to chaperone a field trip. I've also taught sixth-graders Catholic catechism, attended room mom meetings, and organized a fledgling, foundering Bunco group. In short, I've done a lot of "stuff" but haven't really worked on figuring out the career thing.<br />
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So. I'm wondering now if this is a situation unique to me, or if there are other moms, dads, whomever out there in this season of life, wondering exactly what they're going to do next. Please don't misunderstand - I wouldn't change a bit of what I've done over the past 13 years. I have been blessed with an awesome life, I love my family desperately and would do anything for them. I am a happy mom. But I know that at some point, being a mom may no longer be enough to define<b> me</b>. So rather than wait for that happen, I figure it would be a good idea to really explore what I want to be When I Grow Up. I'm hoping you come along on this journey with me as I work toward this goal. I may study for a certification as a pharmacy technician. Or continue some long-abandoned plans to teach preschool. Maybe I'll just end up working at the Hallmark Store (gosh I love the Hallmark Store.)<br />
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It may not be easy but I think it's going to be a lot of fun. Come along with me and feel free to let me know what you're thinking. But like I said before... be nice!Beverlyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00427906581745502903noreply@blogger.com2